7 Secrets Of More Popular People Revealed!
Have you ever wondered what makes popular people seem so effortlessly liked by those who surround them? If you feel like you are always trying to make people like you but not getting anywhere, don’t despair – there are some simple steps you can take to become more popular and make more friends.
Being popular means something different to all of us, but the bottom line is that even if it’s not admitted freely, most people crave the respect and admiration of other people to some extent. Having friends can provide you with feelings of validation, help boost your mood and reduce feelings of stress.
If you want to discover how to become more popular and make more friends while staying true to yourself, read the tips below. If you slowly start to change your attitude and put yourself in the right frame of mind, popularity will follow in time.
Sitting at home by yourself makes it almost impossible to make more friends. Broaden your circle of potential friends by getting involved in your community. Start a new hobby or sport, or make an effort to be involved in activities at your work or school. Surrounding yourself with potential friends is the first step towards making more friends.
Give Yourself A Makeover
While appearances alone won’t make you more popular, your inner confidence is vital to breaking that barrier and making new friendships. Giving yourself a boost by having a new haircut or changing your wardrobe can help to make you feel better about yourself, making you more likely to put yourself out there and talk to more people. To get noticed you don’t need to dye your hair purple or get a tattoo, but if you find your own style that you are comfortable with, you will ooze confidence and people will notice this.
Give Your Ego The Boot!
Stop trying to impress others. If you appear too eager to be more liked, this just comes across as desperate and fake. Conversely, if you go around acting like your too cool for everybody else, then people will just think you are too busy caring about yourself to have any time for them. Stop worrying about how you can make people like you and focus on learning more about them. If you want to be more liked, show you are genuinely interested in other people by asking how their work or school is going, how their family is and paying attention to their hobbies and interests.
Smile when you greet people, even if you are having a bad day. This shows people that you are happy to see them, makes them feel good and makes you more approachable. Smiling back at the world sends the clear message that you are ready for whatever life throws at you, an attractive quality that will instantly make people like you.
While people are naturally drawn to people who are respectful and kind to others, remember that it’s perfectly reasonable to expect the same in return! While making new friends can open you up to new ideas and experiences, try to remain authentic to who you really are. Sometimes in an effort to be more liked by other people it might be tempting to pretend to be somebody you’re not, so try to let your personality shine through and let people get to know your unique qualities. While some people might feel like they need to change who they are in order to become more popular, this usually has a very temporary effect and is exhausting to maintain.
Make The First Move
Once you have met someone you think you would like to be friends with, invite them to do something with you that is outside of the usual activity you are involved in together. For example, if the person is a work colleague, invite them to catch up for a coffee on the weekend. If you know someone through your local sporting club, you could invite them to go for a hike on the weekend. Conversely, if you get invited to an event or activity, make the effort to say yes even if it seems a little scary or inconvenient at the time. If you decline people’s invitations too often, it is highly likely that into the future people will simply stop inviting you. If you do genuinely need to pass on an invite, make it very clear that you are still open to the next invitation.
Don’t Take Rejection Personally
When you are trying to make more friends, it’s important to be realistic about how important you are in their lives. If you have taken the time to listen to them and get to know them, you will already have a feeling for how they are likely to react when you invite them to hang out. If they decline your invitation or don’t commit, don’t take it too personally. Sometimes people have things going on in their life and they are just not in the place where they are looking for a new friend. Rest assured that most of the time, if someone doesn’t have the time for you, it is to do with what is going on in their life and is not a reflection of how they feel about you. Simply take this as a sign that the timing isn’t right to make friends with this person and focus your attention elsewhere.
Friends Vs Being Popular
If you find that you are constantly seeking approval and trying to impress others, then you are probably trying to hard or trying to impress the wrong people. If you feel like you are a wall flower fading into the background, it might be time to step up and take a little more of the spotlight.
While having friends is important to many of us, it’s never worth putting yourself in a situation that makes you feel uncomfortable just to be more liked. When it comes to making friends, remember to trust your instincts and to remain true to your own beliefs and principles. By doing this you will attract people who like you for who you really are – and these people will be the friends that stay. Rather than trying to impress people or ‘win’ friends over, focus on people who genuinely show an interest in being your friend. While being more popular and having lots of friends can be great, remember that sometimes having one or two close friends may be all you need to be happy.
No matter how many friends you make or how popular you become, having a positive outlook on life can help you to feel better about things as well as attracting other positive people into your life. For more tips on how bring positive energy into your life, read 10 Ways To Become Optimistic.