Cunnilingus Explained: How To Perform Oral Sex On A Woman.
Performing oral sex on a woman, technically called cunnilingus, is one of the most intimate of all the sex acts. It is also commonly referred to as "going down on a woman" or "eating her out". During oral sex, a partner is able to closely experience the woman’s pleasure in way that is very different from intercourse.
Oral sex techniques vary immensely from couple to couple depending on personal preferences. One thing to make sure of before you ‘dive in’ is that both parties are completely comfortable with the giving and receiving of oral sex. Once you have established a green light, try these tips below to perform lip-smacking oral sex on a woman.
The most comfortable position to perform cunnilingus is with the woman lying on her back and with you either lying or kneeling, with your head between her legs. Once you are comfortable with your technique you may like to try more adventurous positions.
Use Your Hands
Nowhere in the rule book does it say oral sex needs to be ‘hands free’. Before you use your mouth, start by touching her everywhere you know she likes to be touched. Brush her inner thighs, then wet your finger to gently run across her labia, clitoris and vagina.
Start With Kisses
Begin kissing the entire area. Kiss her inner thighs first, making your way to her labia and vagina, then her clitoris. When you sense she is getting excited by this, it is time to start using your tongue.
Focus On The Clitoris
Lick her all over and experiment with different techniques to find out what drives you woman wild. You can use quick flicking actions or long strong strokes like you are devouring an ice-cream. Most women enjoy clitoral stimulation at this point. Try pointing your tongue and working it in circles on her clitoris. Try other tongue strokes on the clitoris to see what really gets her going. Don’t be afraid to move your head in sync with your tongue to emphasise the strokes. If your partner likes more direct stimulation of her clitoris, try using your hands to hold her labia apart, giving you more direct access.
Keep Using Your Hands
Stroke her labia or put a finger inside her vagina while you continue to work on her clitoris with your tongue. Many women enjoy vaginal penetration and clitoral stimulation at the same time, but some do not, so be sure to find out what your partner likes first. Also remember to stimulate the rest of her body. Touch her buttocks, breasts, nipples and any other part of her body you know she enjoys having touched.
Keep Up Your Rhythm
When your partner is close to orgasm, continue to focus on the places that have responded best to your tongue and continue with a steady rhythm.
Back Off After Orgasm
After orgasm a woman’s clitoris may become quite sensitive, so cease all contact with the clitoris as soon as she has completed her orgasm. Depending on the choices the two of you make from this point, this may be the time to either cuddle or move on to other sex acts.
To Lick Or Not To Lick…
Many people enjoy oral sex as either a sex act on it’s own or as a part of foreplay before penetration. Cunnilingus may cause orgasms to happen quickly and strongly due to stimulation being concentrated so specifically on the genitals. While oral sex is an important part of many people’s sex lives, there are also a lot of people who feel somewhat awkward or uneasy about performing or receiving oral sex. If you are worried that your partners genitals might smell or taste bad, try having a shower together first as a part of foreplay. Some people use flavoured lubricants or flavoured dental dams. If you would like to continue kissing her afterwards, it might also be a good idea to have a bottle of water or flavoured drink on stand-by.
As with any kind of sex, performing oral sex on a woman is a great way of expressing love. Not everybody enjoys giving or receiving oral sex, so if it’s not for you, don’t worry and just keep enjoying all the other fantastic aspects of sex, or try out the huge range of sex toys available. If you do like the idea of performing oral sex on you partner, keep these tips in your mind and you are sure to blow hers!